How To Help A Woman Have An Orgasm By Oral Sex

Cunnilingus - oral sex - is the one of the easiest and best ways to give a woman an orgasm.

Almost all men and woman enjoy cunnilingus but women may be concerned about the smell and taste of their genitals. 

The main reasons why cunnilingus is such a good way of giving a woman an orgasm are -

• it ensures a woman has had an orgasm during sex before intercourse

• the man can enjoy foreplay including cunnilingus, and perhaps masturbation, without getting bored

• being up close and personal with his face in her pussy, a man can stimulate his partner's clitoris to give her an orgasm reliably and regularly

• it takes you away from the idea that vaginal penetration and thrusting is the only form of "real" sex

• it makes having a climax during sex almost certain for the woman

• it overcomes the real differences between men and women's rate of arousal, experience of orgasm and need for different levels of sexual stimulation

• it makes each sexual act a unique experience with your partner

• it helps both the man and the woman engage fully and wholeheartedly each and every time and allows you to focus your whole attention on what you're doing

• it permits real and genuine sexual connection during sex so that sex is more than just a matter of gaining pleasure for yourself through ejaculation and intercourse

• it allows the man to give long lasting sex to his partner without risk of coming too soon; as such, it is an excellent way for a man to learn to delay ejaculation and ensure he can make love for longer than would otherwise be possible.

Difficulties for the woman with cunnilingus as a way to have an orgasm

There are problems of course. The woman may feel vulnerable during cunnilingus if she has any inhibitions or reservations about her body - she is opening herself both physically and emotionally to her partner's gaze...but you can overcome some of these problems in simple, practical ways. 

For example, if she is self-conscious, it may be helpful to view clitoris pictures of other women's vulvas so she can compare them with her own, and see that whatever she has is normal. 

As far as hygiene is concerned, we've already discussed the simple remedy: washing, perhaps taking a shower or a bath together before sex - this should reassure her that her taste and scent are as fresh as they can be.

For men giving a woman an orgasm by oral sex

It's absolutely essential that when you're giving your partner cunnilingus you enjoy it. If you're not enjoying it she will know this and become tense and move further and further away from any chance of you knowing how to give a woman an orgasm. But why would you not like it?

Cunnilingus is a real turn on, and can arouse you to the highest levels of your male desire, and since it's almost certain to give her an orgasm, it prepares you both for really enjoyable intercourse later.

So make sure that you tell her, genuinely, how much you are enjoying the experience of being intimate with her in this way. And give generously of your time. She may or may not have an orgasm quickly, but we know that, given enough attention and foreplay, most women come through cunnilingus. In fact, this is the easiest way for a man, even a sexually inexperienced man, to give a woman an orgasm.

I already said that a huge majority of women who receive twenty minutes or more of foreplay will reach climax. Cunnilingus is the ideal form of foreplay - it stops men getting bored. But you must reassure her that her taste, scent and appearance are all beautiful, and that they turn you on and that you desire her greatly. Be aware that she may need frequent reassurance on this point.

You may have heard that a woman's vagina is very clean; perhaps you've heard that the vagina is cleaner than the mouth. And that's true in terms of bacterial content, but it may not be true in terms of scent or taste. So if she does smell a little strong, just shower together, wand was her using a mild soap....this part of her body is no harder to keep clean than a man's penis and balls.

But if she has washed and there is still an unpleasant odor, this may indicate some kind of infection - that's particularly true when she has a fishy odor, so encourage her to see a doctor. You would expect the discharge from a yeast infection to have little scent, perhaps a slight yeasty smell. The discharge is often described as looking like cottage cheese, but this is not particularly common.

Every woman tastes and smells different in the genital area. And lots of factors affect the smell and taste of a woman's vaginal lubrication, including her diet and medication, her menstrual cycle, whether or not she smokes and drinks and whether she has had a man ejaculate in her vagina in the recent past. But for many men, the scent and taste of their female partner is a crucial part of sexual attraction - and in general it's fair to say that most men will be attracted to the taste of a fresh, clean vagina; indeed, when a woman is aroused and producing more vaginal lubrication, the more attractive her scent and taste is likely to be.

She produces a more distinctive sexual scent as she becomes more aroused, which the man who has the good fortune to be giving her an orgasm through oral sex will in turn find more arousing. There will be a point in a woman's sexual arousal where the taste of her vaginal lubrication changes significantly, and becomes even more appealing to her partner.

Cunnilingus and how to give an orgasm to a woman

You may wonder how common cunnilingus actually is. Among religious traditionalists, people whose attitude to sex is restricted by their religious beliefs (for example, they believe that homosexuality is wrong, that abortion is wrong, that premarital sex is wrong, that teenage sex is wrong, that extramarital sex is wrong, and so on) the overall percentage of couples who have enjoyed cunnilingus is about 56%. Among people who have a more relaxed attitude to sex and are more tolerant, the overall percentage of couples who have enjoyed cunnilingus goes up to 84%. Among women aged 18 to 24, 75% have received oral sex. That number does not vary much up to age 39, after which it drops off slightly.

This means cunnilingus is a popular way for men who wish to know how to give a woman an orgasm. It brings her to climax effectively and reliably. It's enjoyable and popular. But practice safe sex. If you are with a new partner talk openly and honestly about your sexual history and whether or not you have had a sexually transmitted disease, and discuss any risky behaviors you might have engaged in.

Of course the experience of connecting mouth and genitals is an extremely exciting one; an experience much more exciting than "safe oral sex" where you use a latex sheet to prevent intimate contact. But don't let the excitement of knowing how to give a woman an orgasm get the better of your judgment.

However - I strongly recommend that giving her orgasm with cunnilingus should be a staple of a couple's sexual relationship.

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